shipping-isnt-morality:

read-a-fucking-book:

One of the things that annoys me about antis is the idea that their opinions and feelings are objective facts.

I see this a lot. They’ll say things like if you think Adam Driver is prettier than John Boyega that you’re wrong, blind, stupid, racist. But attractiveness is an opinion. There is no way to say that one person is more beautiful than another because there will always be at least one person who disagrees with you. And that doesn’t make either of you wrong because there is no such thing as objective beauty. 

But a lot of antis will say that their opinion on what beauty is is a fact. And that’s just not true. If you would be grossed out by shipping a 13 year old with a 30 year old that doesn’t make it morally wrong. Disgust is a feeling not a fact. Just because you feel something doesn’t mean that anyone who feels differently is wrong or stupid or just doesn’t know better. 

Antis often say that if you ship a problematic ship that you need to look at yourself and find out why you’re comfortable with that. But what they really mean is that “i have the right answer on what a feeling around this should be, and if you don’t agree its because you haven’t thought about it enough”. Because they don’t want you to actually figure out how you feel. They want you to figure out the “right” answer to emotions and opinions. 

For people who talk about representation and sensitivity so much, antis have an incredibly hard time imagining anyone being different from them. They aren’t able to put themselves in someone else’s shoes or try to look at something from a different angle because in their mind, their is a right answer to feelings.

This is very true.

A lot of the time antis just have an assumption about the TRUE thoughts and feelings of the person they’re arguing with, and any attempt at explaining otherwise is at best a naive misunderstanding of their own feelings and at worst malicious deception.

(The people who will probably appear in the comments of this post saying “if you’re not disgusted by a 13 and a 30 year old you’re a pedophile!” are a good example of this.)