Just a small add-on to your great reply to @enometr, may I also suggest that you try and parse how people are using various terms? Like, do they mean “age gaps between 18+ people” or “literal p*dophila” (which is rather obviously not the same thing!). Do they mean “abuse” or “a villain and hero narrative.” Because that’s a BIG issue, wherein a lot of people think they’re arguing (or agreeing!) with one thing, only to realize that antis have decided it applies to completely unrelated situations.